The weather here in Michigan/Indiana the last few weeks has been unseasonably warm which has lead to all sorts of confusing thoughts on the time of year and what should be happening now. For myself, I’ve found that I’m wanting to open all the windows and doors and do some spring cleaning or go outside and clean up the yard from leftover winter debris. It’s a welcomed and product tease of spring in the middle of February.
What makes this warm spell so interesting to me is that it comes at the same time I typically start reflecting on my new years resolutions/goals. I typically make goals and reflect on the year around December and beginning of January like most people, but I also find myself really soaking those thoughts in during February when I’ve had some time to get back to the routine life of the year. Having these reflective thoughts on my 2017 goals at the same time as this time when I’m cleaning and simplifying has led me to some different conclusions.
2016 was a refreshing and freeing year for me and my husband. Without going into super extensive details, we let go of a lot of things we were holding on to because of pride and self-reliance. Throughout all the changes of the year I saw myself letting go of things I thought I should be doing or things I thought I could do but really didn’t need to. I don’t know if it was because we had so many big changes to deal with or because in letting go of pride I also let go of other things, but I started to release myself from thinking I could do all the things.
I’ve always had the mentality of “I can do that” or “I can figure that out” when I saw someone else doing something. Of course this blog itself is a testament to my DIY nature and love for creating things, but it goes beyond that. With my eyes on what others are always doing, I often find myself comparing what I do and think… well, I could figure that out, too.
But 2016 made me realize that I can’t and don’t need to figure out how to do everything.
I don’t have to perfect my calligraphy because I saw other people on Instagram that have beautiful handlettering that I just know I could do the same as.
I don’t have to make a handmade lavender infused cake with blood orange Italian buttercream for everyone’s birthday just because I want to prove that I’m way better than making it from the box.
I don’t have to write a book, go to grad school, or start a business.
I’m hoping to make 2017 a year of less comparison and eliminating the idea that I can and should be able to do everything. I want to enjoy the talents of others without making comparisons to my own abilities. As I work on simplifying my home, I also want to simplify my expectations and feelings of obligation which I know will lead me to contentment, joy and true success.
Today I’m grateful for this warm weather as a reminder of the joy that comes with simple living and simple expectations. Welcome 2017!